How Long?

990210627_010Is there someone in your life that you haven’t spoken to in awhile- after having a silly disagreement?

Maybe it was an argument years ago- nobody eve n remembers what it was about, you just know you’re angry about it and so-and-so never should have said or done what they did.

But still it goes on- you never call this person anymore. You never stop to visit them or drop them a line. You miss them- and sometimes you think that you should reach out. You want to…but then you don’t. “Let them call me,” you say to yourself. And then you go on feeling bad.

Today- right now-this is it- your sign. Yes, I’m talking to you. Call that person today. Make amends. Life is too short. You’ll be happy you did.


DSC01702_0012Stop…and notice the beauty around you. A sunset. A flower. A child’s laughter. A good cup of coffee, even.

So often, we are in a hurry…all the time. Even when there’s nothing pressing we’re in a hurry because we’re so used to running around we forget how to slow down.

When I was in the grocery store this afternoon I saw a woman who appeared to be in a great hurry. She only had a few items in her hand and so I told her to go ahead of me. The cashier noticed how distraught she seemed and asked her “Mary, are you okay? You seem to be in quite a hurry, is everything okay at home?”

The woman, stopped and smiled. “You know what? My husband is out golfing and won’t be home for hours yet. I’m actually in no hurry at all.” Turning to me she apologized for getting in front of me, I told her it was fine. “I’m so used to hurrying to get home to cook dinner for my husband when he got home from work. He’s only been retired a few weeks but I forget somehow and think that I want to get home to cook a good meal for him because he works so hard. And he’s out there now, playing golf with the guys. I think I’ll just go home and relax on my patio.”

So, let me ask you- do you need to be in a hurry all the time?

Nurture It

990205258_034Nurture it…your dream. Protect it. Think about it, write about, talk about it. Let it be the first thing you think about in the morning and the last thing at night. Keep pictures of it where you can see it and be reminded of what you dream about.

Don’t let anyone else pull your dream apart or try to get you to embrace a different dream. if someone doesn’t support your idea, that’s their privilege but change the subject to something more neutral.

You have your dream for a reason. It’s sitting there right now, next to you, just waiting to come true. it might have been sitting there for a long while but it is patient.

Reward your dream by helping it be born. Do it today.

Accept Yourself

990204522_021Accept yourself-as you are, Okay, so you’re not perfect but no one is. No matter what you think you see when you look at another person- they are not perfect. Their life is not perfect. They have their ups and downs; they have challenges to meet- we all have.

Accept yourself with all your “quirks” and be happy to be you. No one can do “you” better than you can. Don’t look at others and wish you had their lives- it has been said that if we all threw our problems into a hat, when we saw what some of the other problems were that we’d take ours back gladly.

Live Today

35920022You know, you really can only live today. In our heads we spend time in the past- reliving past mistakes and worrying about things we can’t change. Or we fast forward to the future to worry about things that haven’t (and probably won’t) happened yet.

And we let today go. We let the here and now go. And then we wonder where it went.

Don’t let that happen to you.

Follow Your Heart

DSC01709_0006Follow your heart- you heart and not your cousin Bob’s, or the guy up the block who seems to have all the lights on in his house no matter what time it is- does that guy ever sleep?

They have their own dreams. They have their own goals. But they are not necessarily yours. You may hear them talk about what they want to do and it may sound good to you-on the surface. But dig deeper and you may find that little voice inside of you saying “oh heck no- that’s not for you!- that dream belongs to that other guy.”

Follow your own heart. You’ll know when something’s right for you and you’re not just following the crowd.You inner voice will help to guide you there.

Do You Know What’s Important?

990108468_012Do you know what’s really important in life? Or do you get so caught up in the moment that you forget?

Are you focusing on all you have to be grateful for, or are you too busy fuming that your coffee is cold or that you had to wait an extra two minutes in line to get it?

Do you remember throughout the day that there are people who love and care about you, and just having you around makes them smile, or is your focus on the fact that the bus is five minutes late?

Let me ask you this- what thoughts do you think will brighten your day? Think more of those.

Do You Shy Away From It?

DSC01702_0012Do you shy away from it…criticism? Do you see it as “all bad” or do you see it as an opportunity to learn something?

Not all criticism is bad and it’s up to you to put your emotions aside to see if there’s real value in what someone is saying to you. Many times there is that “nugget” of wisdom; a piece of advice that will genuinely benefit you, but when we let our feelings get in the way many times we don’t see it.

The next time someone “criticizes” you, stop and think about it for a minute. They just might be doing you a favor after all.

Choose Them Wisely

990108468_034It has been said to choose your thoughts wisely because you’ll have to live with what you choose. And that’s very true. You will have to live with them.

So what do you want to live with? Do you want to live with positivity and confidence; with happiness and laughter? Or do you want to share the couch with fear and anger?

I know which ones I want to invite in my living room- how about you?


35920022Remember what is most important in your journey through life is the experience. Open your mind and heart to it because when you do that you will enjoy a life with more freedom and happiness. When you try to control every little thing you just end up frustrated and fearful.

As you start your new week, keep this in mind.