Boost your confidence- take a small step towards your goal. Even a small step is better than just kind of sitting there waiting to get started. It’s like keeping a car engine on “idle” -A car was meant to move ahead and so are you,
Start small…but start. You’ll see the difference it makes in the way you feel about what you are doing. You’ll start to feel better not only about your project but also about your ability to complete it successfully.
Just try it- try it right now and see what you think.
Keep it in perspective- those little annoyances in life. Missing your bus or train is not the end of the world. Having to buy another brand of fabric softener from your usual brand is not an apocalypse.
So often we make such a big deal out of little things, we pump so much negative energy into them that we condition ourselves to get upset at the drop of a hat- and that is no way to be.
Before you get mad over a small thing ask yourself if it’s really worth getting upset over.
Be the light- in someone’s day. Make their day a little happier just because they met you. So many people need a smile so give them one of yours. So many people want to make a connection with somebody; they feel alone and isolated. Make a little small talk with someone as you wait in line at the grocery or coffee shop. Nod and say “How ya doin” it only take a minute and that minute could be the high point of somebody’s day. Be the one that brings a smile to someone’s lips.
Be ready for it and embrace it…change. Things normally do have to change before they get better, and yes, change can be scary;venturing into the unknown can be unsettling and uncomfortable.But if we can push past these feelings and take a new path then the rewards can be worth it.
So remember, change is a necessary part of life if we are to grow. And from growth comes success and the resolve to continue to move forward.
Build one..a strong support team. Surround yourself with people who support your goals and ambitions. Choose friends that have done what you want to do.
Now I am not saying to abandon friends just because they don’t want to do what you want to do- what I’m saying is that if you are constantly around people who try to tear you down then it’s time to really think about where these kinds of relationships are going and if they are even beneficial.
You deserve to be successful and happy. You deserve to succeed and one of the best ways to do that is to seek out like minded people who will be there for you to cheer you on.
Take the time…to spend time with those close to you. Don’t brush them off, thinking that there will always be time to see your parents, or your elderly aunt- or any of them, But the truth is, as we know, that tomorrow is promised to no one so make that time TODAY for those who matter in your life. The movie can wait. The shopping can wait.
Jump in…and take this day! Do something you want to do. So many times we watch other people going places and doing fun things- but we never seem to do that for ourselves.
Okay, I get it- we don’t all have the money to jet to Paris; however, there are things that we like to do, that we CAN do, but yet we still DON’T do it- and then later we get angry with ourselves because we don’t make time.
We can go on a picnic, or take a walk in the park. or perhaps go to the beach or a pool, or read a favorite book or even take a hot bubble bath. You know what you like to do and what is reasonable for you to do- so don’t deny yourself today- jump in and take the day just for you!
Take them…every opportunity to learn more and to open yourself up to new things because you never know where they may lead you. So maybe you sign up for a yoga class (which is great in itself) and then you find that one of the women in your class happens to be a recruiter at the company that you want to work for. You strike up a conversation and then guess who has a new job?
You never know where new paths will lead you but if you don’t at least travel down them halfway then you’ll never know where they can take you- and aren’t you worth finding out?
It really is there- and it really is all for you- each brand new day. Each one a gift from our benevolent Universe. Each one a prized to be cherished.
Forget about yesterday because it gone and it is done. So what if you made some mistakes- who doesn’t make them? The important thing is to make as much as you can of today- of right now- and move forward. Stop dragging bad memories behind you- it just weighs you down and makes you feel bad.
Count to ten first…or twenty or thirty or whatever it takes- before you get angry. Think about it first- is it really worth getting upset over?
How many times do we get mad over some little thing? Because the more you do that then the easier it will be for you to get mad the next time…and the time after that, until you have a “hair trigger” temper and you find yourself spouting off all over the place.
Case in point- I have a friend who tends to get angry very quickly and over almost anything, and I’ve told him time and time again to stop and think before he got mad. But one day he got angry because somebody took too long (in his opinion) to get through a light that just turned green. He leaned on the horn, passed the woman like a maniac and gave her the finger. He cursed to himself all the way back to his office. When he got into the building, his boss told him he needed to re-do certain aspects of a project he was working on. He was so angry at that point that he said something to his boss that he shouldn’t have and ended up being fired on the spot.
And afterwards, he realized that if he hadn’t allowed himself to get so angry in the first place that he would not have come back from lunch in such a bad mood and he would not have reacted so strongly to his boss.
Well, he’s got another job now and is learning to think before he acts- he counts to 25 before he says anything- if he still feels he needs to react.