Are you communicating actively to those close to you about your wants and needs- or do you just assume they can read your mind?
Do you sit and pout because your significant other didn’t remember that you casually mentioned that you wanted to try the new restaurant in town and then said nothing more about it- and now it’s Friday night and you’re angry because they didn’t suggest that you go there? Then why not say “I’d like to try that new restaurant in town; why don’t we go this Friday night?”
People are not mind readers. Each person has a myriad of thoughts, concerns, hopes and fears. Knowing this, it is up to us to clearly communicate what it is we want and not get angry because that person is not hanging onto every single word we say and putting those words above everything that they are thinking or worrying about.
Be direct- in a kind and compassionate way but say what you mean.
Keep it in perspective- things that happen in your life. In other words- don’t sweat the small stuff.
So many times, we can take a minor inconvenience like running out of milk or maybe even a flat tire and blow it up out of proportion. It’s the end of the world to us- and we tell ourselves things like that too- until we’ve worked ourselves up into a frenzy.
And then after it’s done we finally calm down. But is it really worth all that time being upset? Absolutely not.
So next time,let’s think about the situation and ask ourselves “Is this really worth getting upset over? Is this really something I can’t handle? Chances are the voice you will hear will say “Of course not! You got this.”
Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.
Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.
Do you seek to live harmoniously with others and with all the different situations that come into your life? Or are you angry all the time; at others; at life in general? Are you good at playing the “blame game”‘…nothing is EVER your fault but the fault lies with everyone else, and if they could only be better, if they could only do better, well, then, life would be just sooooooo much better for you.
Have you thought to look at the person you see in the mirror each morning and ask THAT person what he/she could do to be more pleasant…to be kinder, to take a step back BEFORE they start blaming life, the plumber, the boss, the mother-in-law the…well you get where I’m going with this so do yourself a favor and have a long talk with the person you see in the mirror each morning; a good heart felt one and see how life can change and be a little more lighter and brighter.
Are you vibrating towards it…the goals you have set for yourself; the things you desire? They are already there, all around you, just waiting for your vibration to match theirs.
And how do you get there? By holding the thought, unwavering, that they are already yours. See yourself, in your mind’s eye, in whatever situation you want to be in. Where would you be? What would you be doing? What would you be wearing? Who would you be with?
The list of questions can go on and on, but only you know what the questions would be and what your answers would be as well.
But don’t let those thins get away from you. Attract them now and let them pop up in the reality you create.