There are all things that interest us whether it be writing, or kayaking, or whatever else you can think of. There are also many clubs and organizations that support these interests…join one.
Let’s face it- you might be passionate about something and your best friend, significant other, or your siblings have no interest in it- in fact they are tired of hearing about it. So what better thing to do is to find a group where they basically, well, almost always talk about it?
You can meet new friends; friends that have similar interests and they can be a support system for you as you can become for them.
So, if your family is tired of you playing drums until 3 o’clock in the morning well then you can find a place where they embrace it.
Do you spend time there…in your imagination, seeing your dreams take form, feeling your goals coming to fruition? Are you spending time in this magical place? Or, do you brush off your imagination as useless, a waste of time, or a place only for children?
It’s from the imagination that some of the great inventions of our time sprang from. Einstein used it. Edison used it. These were not frivolous men. They did not view the imagination as a place for only little kids- they viewed it s a viable tool to help them on their journeys.
And so should you. Make the commitment today to spend at last a few minutes of the day in your imagination, visualizing your goals being realized, and see how it can be a very valuable tool.
Just step back for a moment…before you get angry. Stop and think, because at this point you can still turn it around and look for a calm solution. One you start screaming, however, anger can escalate. And then it can ruin your day. It can cause you to say things that you might not have said when you are calm- things you could regret.
So before you let anger get started, cut it off before it has the chance to bloom.
Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
Let it roll… like water off a duck’s back-what somebody else is saying when they’re upset.
So often, their attitude often has nothing to do with you. The holidays can be a trying time for many.We like to think of it as all Santa Claus and shiny gifts, but many people feel a sense of loss.
Keep that in mind when someone lashes out. They may be hurting inside and just need some compassion. Don’t escalate the argument. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Just nod, stay silent, or walk away if you have to. Keep compassion in your heart.
What’s your story? Okay, what I mean is- what story do you tell yourself? Do you tell yourself a story of how you’re not good enough or that you can’t do anything right or that everybody else on this planet is somehow better than you?
That’s a crummy story. It’s also a lie. You’re telling yourself lies.
If you’re telling yourself the story of how you are equal to any challenge that comes your way and that there are plenty of things you do right and that you are just as good as anybody else then I like your story. It’s a good one so keep it. It’s also the truth.