Are You Communicating…


Are you communicating actively to those close to you about your wants and needs- or do you just assume they can read your mind?

Do you sit and pout because your significant other didn’t remember that you casually mentioned that you wanted to try the new restaurant in town and then said nothing more about it- and now it’s Friday night and you’re angry because they didn’t suggest that you go there? Then why not say “I’d like to try that new restaurant in town; why don’t we go this Friday night?”

People are not mind readers. Each person has a myriad of thoughts, concerns, hopes and fears. Knowing this, it is up to us to clearly communicate what it is we want and not get angry because that person is not hanging onto every single word we say and putting those words above everything that they are thinking or worrying about.

Be direct- in a kind and compassionate way but say what you mean.

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Cultivate It…


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Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.

Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.

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Do You Seek Harmony?


 

Do you seek to live harmoniously with others and with all the different situations that come into your life? Or are you angry all the time; at others; at life in general? Are you good at playing the “blame game”‘…nothing is EVER your fault but the fault lies with everyone else, and if they could only be better, if they could only do better, well, then, life would be just sooooooo much better for you.

Have you thought to look at the person you see in the mirror each morning and ask THAT person what he/she could do to be more pleasant…to be kinder, to take a step back BEFORE they start blaming life, the plumber, the boss, the mother-in-law the…well you get where I’m going with this so do yourself a favor and have a long talk with the person you see in the mirror each morning; a good heart felt one and see how life can change and be a little more lighter and brighter.

#seriouscoaching #debbieailman #positivevibes #crystalhealing

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Are You Vibrating Towards It?


Are you vibrating towards it…the goals you have set for yourself; the things you desire? They are already there, all around you, just waiting for your vibration to match theirs.

And how do you get there? By holding the thought, unwavering, that they are already yours. See yourself, in your mind’s eye, in whatever situation you want to be in. Where would you be? What would you be doing? What would you be wearing? Who would you be with?

The list of questions can go on and on, but only you know what the questions would be and what your answers would be as well.

But don’t let those thins get away from you. Attract them now and let them pop up in the reality you create.

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Smile…


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Smile…when people try your patience. When they carry on and complain don’t get drawn into it…keep smiling.

Think of something pleasant or funny and keep your thoughts trained on that. Let the complaining just go. Wish that person well. Maybe they are sad or unhappy and that usually is the case. But whatever the reason, smile and keep your composure.

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Ya Gotta Have Some…


 

Ya gotta have some…enthusiasm. You have to have a zest for life and an appreciation of all the good things already in your life- if you want to enjoy it.

Sometimes it means being happy over little things- like a sunny day or a warm breeze. And many times it means making a conscious effort to shift the way we we from kind of “blah” to feeling optimistic about the day and all it brings.

Making an effort to be enthusiastic can make the difference between a gray day and a great day!

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Give It A Try…


 

Give it a try…a new situation. Let me give you an example.

Many years ago, right after my divorce. I wanted to meet someone new, but I just wasn’t looking in the right places. And so, one day I picked up this little magazine called the “”Selling Post” Okay, it sold mostly farm equipment, but on the back page was a dating service. And it was free.

Most of the people I worked with thought I was crazy, that this was no way to meet someone new. But my thought was that I wasn’t having much luck anyway, so why not try it?

I met a lot of nice guys through that magazine; I learned what I liked and didn’t like. and then, I met my husband.

Soon after I got married I noticed that whenever I walked into a room some of the women abruptly stopped reading something and then shoved it hastily into their handbags; it was the “Selling Post.”

Keep your options open. The situation might take you exactly where you want to go.

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