Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
Let it roll… like water off a duck’s back-what somebody else is saying when they’re upset.
So often, their attitude often has nothing to do with you. The holidays can be a trying time for many.We like to think of it as all Santa Claus and shiny gifts, but many people feel a sense of loss.
Keep that in mind when someone lashes out. They may be hurting inside and just need some compassion. Don’t escalate the argument. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Just nod, stay silent, or walk away if you have to. Keep compassion in your heart.
What’s your story? Okay, what I mean is- what story do you tell yourself? Do you tell yourself a story of how you’re not good enough or that you can’t do anything right or that everybody else on this planet is somehow better than you?
That’s a crummy story. It’s also a lie. You’re telling yourself lies.
If you’re telling yourself the story of how you are equal to any challenge that comes your way and that there are plenty of things you do right and that you are just as good as anybody else then I like your story. It’s a good one so keep it. It’s also the truth.
Are you letting them define you…mistakes? Do you think because you made a mistake doing something that you should never try again?
You fell down the first time you tried to walk, right? But you walk now, don’t you? What would happen if after you fell down the first time you never tried it again? You’d have some pretty dirty knees that’s for sure.
Now, we know that obviously we tried and tried until we got it right. And we did it because it was an important thing to learn. It mattered.
So shouldn’t you feel that determination for everything you attempt? Very few things are ever going to go perfectly on the first attempt. That’s why you do it again…
Let’s do it…let’s get a little (or a lot) of enthusiasm!
Instead of just moping around being all depressed that we have to work or that we have chore to do that may not be our favorite, let’s switch it up.
Sit up straight at your desk. Smile. Take a deep breath and say out loud “I am grateful for this day and I’m going to make it the best day I can!”
Do you feel a change in the energy? If yes, then great, but if no, then do it again until you feel it.
We’re going to work; we’re going to do some chore that is not exactly our favorite thing to do- so why not make it as pleasant as we possibly can? It will make the day better for ourselves and everyone around us.
Don’t let it haunt you…your past. Don’t carry it around with you everywhere you go. Don’t let it take up all that room in your thoughts. It needs to be left behind.
We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things that we’ve been less than proud of. All of us. The point ere is- do we learn from these things and move on successfully- or do we just keep reliving them over and over and over again?
Your choice. Stay stuck with the “ghosts” of yesterday or move forward towards a brighter tomorrow?
Choose wisely…your friends. It has been said that we tend to “take on” the characteristics of those closest to us. Do you want to be around people who encourage you and make you smile? Do you want to be around people who support your goals? (And you do the same for them)
Think about your friendships. Is there one that you have been questioning for awhile? Is there something you could do to improve that relationship and have you tried?
If so, it may be time to move on. Sad, yes it is, but we all know when they point has been reached. We need to offer support but also receive it as well.
Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.
Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.