Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
Let it roll… like water off a duck’s back-what somebody else is saying when they’re upset.
So often, their attitude often has nothing to do with you. The holidays can be a trying time for many.We like to think of it as all Santa Claus and shiny gifts, but many people feel a sense of loss.
Keep that in mind when someone lashes out. They may be hurting inside and just need some compassion. Don’t escalate the argument. Don’t add fuel to the fire. Just nod, stay silent, or walk away if you have to. Keep compassion in your heart.
What’s your story? Okay, what I mean is- what story do you tell yourself? Do you tell yourself a story of how you’re not good enough or that you can’t do anything right or that everybody else on this planet is somehow better than you?
That’s a crummy story. It’s also a lie. You’re telling yourself lies.
If you’re telling yourself the story of how you are equal to any challenge that comes your way and that there are plenty of things you do right and that you are just as good as anybody else then I like your story. It’s a good one so keep it. It’s also the truth.
You can only move forward in life…and not go back- so keep that in mind when you keep dwelling on the past
What was said was said; what was done as done- and there’s just no undoing it If there is a lesson you can learn from the past then by all means take that lesson with you and use what you have learned right now and in the future. But if you keep going back to the past just to beat yourself up then you need to shut the door on it and leave it there because it has no place in your life anymore.
How strongly do you feel…about the things you think you want? Are you willing to go to bat for them wholeheartedly, to give it your all? Or at the first sign of trouble will you say to yourself something like “Oh, I guess this wasn’t meant to be. I’d better find something else to do although I really liked the idea of doing (you fill in the blank)” Did you know Sir Edmund Hillary, the first person to climb to the peak of Mt. Everest in May of 1953 actually failed to reach its summit in 1952? He felt like a failure even when he was being honored for his valiant attempt. It was only when he shook his fist at a picture of the mountain and said something like “you’re not going to beat me!” And then he gathered himself up, got himself ready, took a deep breath and started up the summit again, this time to be victorious. So how strongly do you feel about the goals you have for yourself? Are you willing to put it all on the line to achieve them or will you back down when the going gets a little tough? Share this:SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURES
Don’t let it haunt you…your past. Don’t carry it around with you everywhere you go. Don’t let it take up all that room in your thoughts. It needs to be left behind.
We all make mistakes. We’ve all done things that we’ve been less than proud of. All of us. The point ere is- do we learn from these things and move on successfully- or do we just keep reliving them over and over and over again?
Your choice. Stay stuck with the “ghosts” of yesterday or move forward towards a brighter tomorrow?
Choose wisely…your friends. It has been said that we tend to “take on” the characteristics of those closest to us. Do you want to be around people who encourage you and make you smile? Do you want to be around people who support your goals? (And you do the same for them)
Think about your friendships. Is there one that you have been questioning for awhile? Is there something you could do to improve that relationship and have you tried?
If so, it may be time to move on. Sad, yes it is, but we all know when they point has been reached. We need to offer support but also receive it as well.
Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.
Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.
It sure helps…being thankful. It just makes you feel better, more calm, more peaceful, and just happier.it makes you glad to be alive.
Think about the times that you have been thankful for something. Think about the way you felt. Think about the actions you then took as a result of feeling good. You took some great steps, right? You probably got a lot more done than if you sat around feeling sorry for yourself, right?
Let’s all shift our focus towards being thankful today and then we’ll make it a great day!