Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
Are you letting them define you…mistakes? Do you think because you made a mistake doing something that you should never try again?
You fell down the first time you tried to walk, right? But you walk now, don’t you? What would happen if after you fell down the first time you never tried it again? You’d have some pretty dirty knees that’s for sure.
Now, we know that obviously we tried and tried until we got it right. And we did it because it was an important thing to learn. It mattered.
So shouldn’t you feel that determination for everything you attempt? Very few things are ever going to go perfectly on the first attempt. That’s why you do it again…
Are you happy? Do you make it a point to be happy about simple things- a sunny day, a smile of a child, the beauty of a flower, for example?
Or are you only happy when something ore monumental comes along- like a new car or a big raise at work?
Of course you should be happy about those bigger things, but let’s face it, those things don’t come about everyday, so if you’re waiting on those types of things to make you happy then you may be waiting for a very long time.
But if we can be happy about simple things, every day things that we sometimes (okay often) take for granted because we just don’t think they’re that important to be excited about, then we will be happier more often- and that positive mood will drawn in even more for us to be happy about.
Notice them…your feelings. They are your true barometers; they are your measuring sticks and your compass about the direction you’re going in.
If something doesn’t feel right; if it feels “off” somehow then don’t ignore it. Stop and really think about what you’re doing. If it still makes you uncomfortable then maybe it’s time you changed your path…or at least made a slight adjustment
Give your inner self credit for knowing what’s best for you. Trust it. And go with your gut.
We make it happen- we decide how far we go, or don’t go- just by what we do.
Are we giving it our “all” or just going about our day hit or miss? Do we then say it’s somebody else’s fault because we don’t get what we want? Did we really go after it? Did we really do all we could do? Or are we gonna play the “It’s not my fault” game?
Let’s ask ourselves what we can do to stay on the track we want to be on. And then let’s take action- and assign no blame.
If you’re gonna be a grump, then prepared to be around grumpy people. If you walk around saying things like “I hate all people” then you’re going to spend lots of time on your own.
I had a friend years ago who told me everyone around her was always in a mood. One day, i was at another friends house and we were having a lively, pleasant conversation. Then my friend walked in. Slamming the door she said loudly “I can’t believe all that damn traffic out there- why don’t more of these ******** people stay home and off the roads!”
The whole atmosphere of the room changed and so she walked over to me and said “You see, what I told you is true- these people are always grumpy.
Are you taking some time..to connect with your inner self? Do you pay attention to that little voice when it calls to you? Or do you close it off and instead listen to the voice of others.
Now listening to others is not a bad thing- we can learn valuable lessons form others. But when somebody is giving you advice and that little voice is literally screaming no, no. no- then perhaps it’s time to start listening to that inner you- because that is the best possible advice to take.
Will it be up or down? Your journey through this life?
Will every setback destroy you; every mistake bring you misery? Will a chance remark deflate you? If you let it then it will. You will always be at the bottom of the steps looking up, but you will never climb to a higher level.
The world is full of setbacks. We all make mistakes. And there’s always somebody saying the “wrong thing” You’re not going to get away from it unless you choose to live in a bubble. And how much fun would that be? Probably not much.
Learn from your mistakes and climb. Let people talk. Ignore it…and climb.