Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
What’s your story? Okay, what I mean is- what story do you tell yourself? Do you tell yourself a story of how you’re not good enough or that you can’t do anything right or that everybody else on this planet is somehow better than you?
That’s a crummy story. It’s also a lie. You’re telling yourself lies.
If you’re telling yourself the story of how you are equal to any challenge that comes your way and that there are plenty of things you do right and that you are just as good as anybody else then I like your story. It’s a good one so keep it. It’s also the truth.
Are you letting them define you…mistakes? Do you think because you made a mistake doing something that you should never try again?
You fell down the first time you tried to walk, right? But you walk now, don’t you? What would happen if after you fell down the first time you never tried it again? You’d have some pretty dirty knees that’s for sure.
Now, we know that obviously we tried and tried until we got it right. And we did it because it was an important thing to learn. It mattered.
So shouldn’t you feel that determination for everything you attempt? Very few things are ever going to go perfectly on the first attempt. That’s why you do it again…
Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.
Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.
Are you happy? Do you make it a point to be happy about simple things- a sunny day, a smile of a child, the beauty of a flower, for example?
Or are you only happy when something ore monumental comes along- like a new car or a big raise at work?
Of course you should be happy about those bigger things, but let’s face it, those things don’t come about everyday, so if you’re waiting on those types of things to make you happy then you may be waiting for a very long time.
But if we can be happy about simple things, every day things that we sometimes (okay often) take for granted because we just don’t think they’re that important to be excited about, then we will be happier more often- and that positive mood will drawn in even more for us to be happy about.