Surround yourself with them…positive people, when you can.
Okay, I can already hear what you’re saying “I can’t pick my family, Debbie,” and you’re right- you can’t. But you can pick your friends.
Now I’m not telling you to abandon your friend in need- we all have times when we just need to “talk it out” and we should be that sympathetic ear. But when all you get is a sea of negativity all the time and it’s starting to affect you- then perhaps you might to cultivate more friendships that are mutually rewarding.
Don’t abandon your friends but instead widen your circle-the more positivity you can expose yourself to the better you will feel and the better able you will be to help your less positive friends find solutions that can help them; after all, everyone wants to be around happy, smiling and positive people because it rubs off. Then everyone feels better.
You can only move forward in life…and not go back- so keep that in mind when you keep dwelling on the past
What was said was said; what was done as done- and there’s just no undoing it If there is a lesson you can learn from the past then by all means take that lesson with you and use what you have learned right now and in the future. But if you keep going back to the past just to beat yourself up then you need to shut the door on it and leave it there because it has no place in your life anymore.
You deserve it…a break. Life is about balance- because balance is what gets the job done right. Knowing when to work and when to stop. Knowing when to take a step back and recharge. And most of us know when that time is, because, as we continue to work because we think we should- we just start making lots of mistakes. We get frustrated and angry, but we keep at it anyway, and we keep spiraling downward.
That is your signal to step away. That is your signal to make a shift in your thoughts and activities and do something you like. You’ll know again when it’s time to get back to the task at hand.
Cultivate it as much as you can…an attitude of calm. Count to ten before you get angry. Instead of getting into an argument, walk away until you calm down. Take things at a slower pace when you can- you don’t have to be in a rush to go everywhere and do everything. Slow down a little. Spend some quiet time- maybe a walk or listening to relaxing music.
Cut off anger and drama before it takes hold. Cultivate that peaceful feeling.
It’s always the right time…to begin. If you have the idea, the dream, the goal- then it’s time. You will find a way to make it happen. It is why the dream lives on inside you- because you have what it takes to bring it into the physical world.
Use that power and use it now- don’t let your dream die an early death.
Notice them…your feelings. They are your true barometers; they are your measuring sticks and your compass about the direction you’re going in.
If something doesn’t feel right; if it feels “off” somehow then don’t ignore it. Stop and really think about what you’re doing. If it still makes you uncomfortable then maybe it’s time you changed your path…or at least made a slight adjustment
Give your inner self credit for knowing what’s best for you. Trust it. And go with your gut.
Hang in there! Sure, sometimes the road to our goal is not all smooth sailing- there often are many bumps and detours along the way. There are times when we stop to ask ourselves “Is this really worth it?” and then we just kind of stand there, scratching our heads and thinking that, well, maybe it’s time to stop and consider going in a different direction altogether.
But what if what you want is just around that next bend? What happens if you turn around now? Then you’ll never know, will you? You could spend the rest of your life always wondering about “what might have been” if you just hung in there a little longer…
We make it happen- we decide how far we go, or don’t go- just by what we do.
Are we giving it our “all” or just going about our day hit or miss? Do we then say it’s somebody else’s fault because we don’t get what we want? Did we really go after it? Did we really do all we could do? Or are we gonna play the “It’s not my fault” game?
Let’s ask ourselves what we can do to stay on the track we want to be on. And then let’s take action- and assign no blame.