Is there someone in your life that you haven’t spoken to in awhile- after having a silly disagreement?
Maybe it was an argument years ago- nobody eve n remembers what it was about, you just know you’re angry about it and so-and-so never should have said or done what they did.
But still it goes on- you never call this person anymore. You never stop to visit them or drop them a line. You miss them- and sometimes you think that you should reach out. You want to…but then you don’t. “Let them call me,” you say to yourself. And then you go on feeling bad.
Today- right now-this is it- your sign. Yes, I’m talking to you. Call that person today. Make amends. Life is too short. You’ll be happy you did.
Can you see yourself doing what you really want to do? Can you envision it? Can you see it in your mind and in your mind’s eye touch it and experience it?
Karen Ford tells us “People will never attain what they cannot see themselves doing”
Make it a point today, in fact right now if you can, to review what you want and spend your time visualizing it.
If it is a little tough a first, then find a quiet place, put on some soft background music, light a candle and concentrate on the flame. Let your mind drift at first but then start to focus on what you want.
The more you can do this the more you help bring your dream to life instead of leaving in the back of a dark, dusty closet never to experience the light of day.
Are you communicating actively to those close to you about your wants and needs- or do you just assume they can read your mind?
Do you sit and pout because your significant other didn’t remember that you casually mentioned that you wanted to try the new restaurant in town and then said nothing more about it- and now it’s Friday night and you’re angry because they didn’t suggest that you go there? Then why not say “I’d like to try that new restaurant in town; why don’t we go this Friday night?”
People are not mind readers. Each person has a myriad of thoughts, concerns, hopes and fears. Knowing this, it is up to us to clearly communicate what it is we want and not get angry because that person is not hanging onto every single word we say and putting those words above everything that they are thinking or worrying about.
Be direct- in a kind and compassionate way but say what you mean.
Keep it in perspective- things that happen in your life. In other words- don’t sweat the small stuff.
So many times, we can take a minor inconvenience like running out of milk or maybe even a flat tire and blow it up out of proportion. It’s the end of the world to us- and we tell ourselves things like that too- until we’ve worked ourselves up into a frenzy.
And then after it’s done we finally calm down. But is it really worth all that time being upset? Absolutely not.
So next time,let’s think about the situation and ask ourselves “Is this really worth getting upset over? Is this really something I can’t handle? Chances are the voice you will hear will say “Of course not! You got this.”