Are you communicating actively to those close to you about your wants and needs- or do you just assume they can read your mind?
Do you sit and pout because your significant other didn’t remember that you casually mentioned that you wanted to try the new restaurant in town and then said nothing more about it- and now it’s Friday night and you’re angry because they didn’t suggest that you go there? Then why not say “I’d like to try that new restaurant in town; why don’t we go this Friday night?”
People are not mind readers. Each person has a myriad of thoughts, concerns, hopes and fears. Knowing this, it is up to us to clearly communicate what it is we want and not get angry because that person is not hanging onto every single word we say and putting those words above everything that they are thinking or worrying about.
Be direct- in a kind and compassionate way but say what you mean.
Keep it in perspective- things that happen in your life. In other words- don’t sweat the small stuff.
So many times, we can take a minor inconvenience like running out of milk or maybe even a flat tire and blow it up out of proportion. It’s the end of the world to us- and we tell ourselves things like that too- until we’ve worked ourselves up into a frenzy.
And then after it’s done we finally calm down. But is it really worth all that time being upset? Absolutely not.
So next time,let’s think about the situation and ask ourselves “Is this really worth getting upset over? Is this really something I can’t handle? Chances are the voice you will hear will say “Of course not! You got this.”
Do you seek to live harmoniously with others and with all the different situations that come into your life? Or are you angry all the time; at others; at life in general? Are you good at playing the “blame game”‘…nothing is EVER your fault but the fault lies with everyone else, and if they could only be better, if they could only do better, well, then, life would be just sooooooo much better for you.
Have you thought to look at the person you see in the mirror each morning and ask THAT person what he/she could do to be more pleasant…to be kinder, to take a step back BEFORE they start blaming life, the plumber, the boss, the mother-in-law the…well you get where I’m going with this so do yourself a favor and have a long talk with the person you see in the mirror each morning; a good heart felt one and see how life can change and be a little more lighter and brighter.
Ya gotta have some…enthusiasm. You have to have a zest for life and an appreciation of all the good things already in your life- if you want to enjoy it.
Sometimes it means being happy over little things- like a sunny day or a warm breeze. And many times it means making a conscious effort to shift the way we we from kind of “blah” to feeling optimistic about the day and all it brings.
Making an effort to be enthusiastic can make the difference between a gray day and a great day!
Notice them…your feelings. They are your true barometers; they are your measuring sticks and your compass about the direction you’re going in.
If something doesn’t feel right; if it feels “off” somehow then don’t ignore it. Stop and really think about what you’re doing. If it still makes you uncomfortable then maybe it’s time you changed your path…or at least made a slight adjustment
Give your inner self credit for knowing what’s best for you. Trust it. And go with your gut.